The other week on the blog I shared about my life coaching experience with Sally. This was truly one of the best investments that I have made in myself.
“You won’t recognize yourself in a year. You will be a different person.”
When you hear someone tell you this it seems pretty unbelievable, right?
If you know me, or have been following me on social media for a while you likely have seen the changes for yourself.
In case you don’t know me that well, let’s rewind a bit so I can paint a picture of the old Christina.
Here are some descriptive terms that I would have used to describe myself: overwhelmed, wall-flower, constant type-A perfectionist, stressed, emotionally drained, afraid to speak up and share my opinion, no energy or zest for life, unfit, lacking in self confidence, unfulfilled, always worried, tired, afraid to be me, had a high need for approval from others.
While I agree with the quote about being a different person, I think it’s more that the true Christina came out through coaching and personal development work.
Basically, a different person than the world knew came to the forefront. She was always there inside, I just needed to allow her to be seen and heard.
Now, the changes didn’t happen all at once.
Initially, I went to see Sally every other week for the first several months. After that, it was more on an as needed basis to check in or if there was a particular problem going on that I needed support to figure out.
I used the intention sheets to start declaring and speaking what I wanted my life to look like and how I wanted it to feel. A big change for me was that I started making decisions with confidence and clarity.
I started to take action in my life.
After I left my marriage, my children and I lived with my parents for 15 months. As they have 2 cars, they let me borrow one whenever I needed it. In all honesty, I was the one using the car 95% of the time. However, given that it was shared, I didn’t have free reign, and I knew if and when I was to move out I would need my own set of wheels.
On my first intention sheet, I wrote down “buy my own car”. By the next time I saw Sally, I had a car of my own!
The funny thing about this is that I had been thinking about my own car for a while. I had done some test driving over the summer, and would browse online to see what was available and figure out what I liked.
Life coaching tip: If you want something in your life (this does not need to be material) write it out, describe it, share it, & declare it. See how fast it shows up!
The next big step for me was signing up for a 6 week fitness challenge at a local fitness center. This was the start of me taking care of myself on the next level. In those 6 weeks, I lost about 10lbs and really toned up. I continued with the program well beyond the 6 week challenge.
I became confident and comfortable in my own skin.
As my physicality changed, I also found the inner self confidence to take major leaps forward in my life. Another time, I will delve into the topic of the physical change connection to living on purpose and taking inspired action in one’s life.
I wasn’t afraid anymore and therefore, I started building the life I wanted for myself and my children.
A few months later, I was moving out of my parents’ house and into my own. Also during this time, I started building my own business.
While these examples are all things you can see, the most amazing changes were on the inside. My perspective and viewpoints changed as well my confidence and belief in myself.
So yes, I do believe in one year I became a different person. My personal growth was exponential!
When I left my marriage, I didn’t recognize the woman I saw in the mirror anymore, but now I do again. Fortunately, through lots of healing and hard work, I was able to find myself again and bring the true Christina to the forefront.
However, with all these changes happening so fast, the one thing that held me back was being afraid of what others would think of the new me. It took me another year of only showing up as the true Christina some of the time, then hiding with the old comfortable Christina, before I came forward fully.
Why? I still very much cared what people thought about me and was afraid of their reactions to the new me.
Have you ever been held back by your fears of what others think of you?
Check in next week to learn how I released these fears and now live my truth fully.