Let’s talk about the “F” word. FEAR. We all know the basic definition of fear, however I like to use two acronyms in particular when it comes to fear.
- False Evidence Appearing Real
- Face Everything and Rise
We’ve all felt fear on various levels and it can come into play each and every day in our lives. Often, we don’t even realize the fear exists, as it becomes commonplace.
Here are a few ways that fear can play with our heads:
“I wonder how they will react to my text?”
“Do I look fat in this outfit?”
“What if I make a mistake?”
When we question ourselves and our actions, it is actually fear talking.
Most fears are not even real. We blow them up in our head to larger-than-life proportions, creating unnecessary anxiety and worry. What good does that do? For the most part, fear only holds us back.
It is often the everyday things that in the moment feel very real, but are actually false
For example, the first time I posted an Instagram story with a video of me talking, I was a bit nervous and worried. My inner self talk went like this, “What if people don’t like what I have to say? I don’t have time to get make up on. I have a big zit next to my eyebrow.”
This is the classic, “I fear what others will think of me.”
Guess what? I did it, and it wasn’t such a big deal. I thought to myself, “It is better to just be me and be real and if people don’t like it, oh well.”
When you live your truth, and your intentions are good, there is really no reason to be afraid.
Now, I am not saying that all fears are not real. Sometimes, fear is very real.
I remember in my freshman year of high school we had a day trip to New York City. My friend and I were in a store while it was held up at gun point. That was pretty scary. Luckily, no one got hurt.
When I found out that my ex was not honoring our marriage, I was truly fearful of an unknown future. I was paralyzed with fear so much that I wasn’t eating, and lost 7 lbs in a week (and if you know me, I am a foodie and enjoy eating!).
When life hits us with these fearful and uncertain events, we have the choice to Face Everything And Rise. You can either let the fear hold you back, or you can take it as an opportunity to learn and grow as a person. I made the choice to rise with each fearful event surrounding my marriage crumbling, which has enabled me to trust myself and live my truth.
Luckily, these truly fearful episodes are infrequent. Ultimately, we need to listen to our intuition, which could be surfacing as fear. Is it your intuition speaking? What is the fear trying to tell you? The key point is to feel the fear, dig into the emotion of it, listen to it, process it, and then take action.
When you have a fear, doubt, or question in your mind, ask yourself, “Is this fear real? What’s the best that can happen? What’s the worst that can happen?”
Acknowledge your feelings and take a minute to process it. Usually, it’s not so scary after all. These are the times to grit your teeth and just go for it.
There is a great mantra, “Feel the fear and do it anyway.”
You can embrace this mantra by trusting in yourself.
How are you rising above your fears today?